Take Command of Your Self-Esteem


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By Debbie Bills

ISBN: 978-1-84991-215-0
Published: 2010
Pages: 56
Key Themes: self help, self esteem, depression, empowerment



What would it take for you to know that your self-esteem was the best it could be? Good self-esteem brings happiness to your life no matter what may be going on. In “Take Command of Your Self-Esteem” you will learn where your self-esteem came from and it is your birthright to love and honor yourself.

There is absolutely no reason why people should “suffer” from low self esteem. Your self esteem is something which you have absolute and immediate control.
In this book you will learn the techniques to regain control of your self-esteem and enjoy a health happy life. You will see improvement in all aspects of your life, which include better relationships with partners, family and friends. It shall equip you with good parenting skills, so that if there are children in your life they shall grow up with good self-esteem.

You don’t have to be born in the right family, be a certain weight or have money in the bank to have good self-esteem. By the time you are though reading this book you will have all the tools you need to experience good healthy self-esteem and lead a happy life and prosper no matter what may happen in the future.

About the Author

Debbie Bills was born in 1948 in Nebraska, USA. She had a number of personal experienced throughout her childhood that led her to gain a deep knowledge of self-esteem and the effect it has on our confidence and empowerment as individuals. By reading, learning, and life experience, Debbie realized that we are each capable of enhancing our personal self-esteem in order to grow to be more confident, successful people.

Book Extract

The term ‘self-esteem’ was first used in approximately 1650. It has become the yardstick through which people view themselves. We know that low self-esteem is a bad thing, and high self-esteem is positive. One leads to issues such as anxiety, depression and uncertainty, while the other brings benefits such as confidence, sociability and a lust for life.

The problem with self-esteem is just how difficult it is to define. Definitions for this elusive quality range from valuing the self right through to having the ability to love and be loved. Regardless of where your view on the spectrum of self-esteem lies, there can be no doubt that it is a quality which we all, as human beings, want to own.

Self-esteem makes us more comfortable with ourselves as people. It gives us the clarity of mind to make confident judgements, trusting ourselves to make the right decisions at the right time. It enables us to step out with pride, knowing that we are acting in the right way.

There are more benefits to high self-esteem. People who place value on themselves are more capable, having faith that their actions will bring benefits. They are more sociable, as they know that they have something of value to bring to their family and peer relationships. Above all, people with a good sense of self understand that they are unique, wonderful individuals in their own way. They are quicker to forgive themselves for failings, and more likely to attempt to reach their goals without being held back by doubt and negativity.

All in all, it is self-evident that a good level of pride and self-worth is a massive element of what it means to be human. Without this quality, many people can flounder when it comes to fitting easily and comfortably into their own world. The problem is, self-esteem can be removed much more easily than it can be created. When people go through set-backs which undermine their confidence, or repeatedly undergo experiences such as abuse, negative relationships or parental criticism, they can quickly lose the self-esteem they once had.
The most important place we need to apply esteem is within ourselves. We must maintain our self-esteem, so we place value on ourselves as a worthy individual in the world. Self-esteem affects every single part of our lives. If that esteem is low, we can feel like our life isn’t worthy. Elevating esteem for ourselves is the key to happiness in life.

Your own self-esteem is something more fundamental than the normal “ups and downs” associated with situational changes. For people with good basic self-esteem, normal “ups and downs” may lead to temporary fluctuations in the way they feel about themselves, but only to a limited extent. For people with poor self-esteem, these “ups and down” may make all the difference in the world.
People with poor self-esteem rely on how they are doing in the present to determine how they feel about themselves. They need positive external experiences to counteract the negative feelings and thoughts that constantly plague them. The good feeling (from a good grade, etc.) can be only temporary.
Healthy self-esteem is based on our ability to assess ourselves accurately (know ourselves) and still be able to accept and to value ourselves unconditionally. This means being able to realistically acknowledge our strengths and limitations (which is part of being human) and accepting ourselves as worthy and worthwhile without conditions or reservations.
Sometimes we need to raise our self-esteem to levels that will enhance our life and the way we view life. It can make a tremendous difference to our quality of life. Learning techniques to raise self-esteem can be taught and put into practice in just a few days. It does take practice to keep one’s self-worth at the forefront.

This book outlines the nature of self-esteem, and demonstrates just how easy it can be to regain a sense of self which is whole, uncritical and forgiving. The benefits of self-worth bring their own regards, and will help you to be more positive, outgoing, goal-oriented and confident in your day to day life.

1 review for Take Command of Your Self-Esteem

  1. Jennifer Syrkiewicz (verified owner)

    This is a superb book for anyone who is struggling with low self-confidence and esteem. Debbie Bills has written with experience and knowledge about her subject, showing how low self-esteem develops in the first place, and offering great practical and manageable steps to take control of it again. A great first book – looking forward to seeing more from this positive and likeable writer.

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